Imagine for a moment that you’re on the road. You put on your favorite music and let your thoughts fade into background noise. Next thing you know, you zone out and everything shifts into auto-pilot.
Eventually, you realize you don’t know where you are!
Everything looks unfamiliar, you’re in a daze, and you feel completely lost.
Dread and disappointment creep into your thoughts as you wonder – “Wow, how did I get here? And how do I get back on track?”
This story represents a life coach on auto-pilot.
It’s a state of mind where life fades into the background like radio music and instead of paying attention to the signs of the Universe to expand and grow, you cruise along at the current version of yourself – eventually drifting off track and down dead-end roads.
Today we’re going to explore the best way to shift out of auto-pilot by being a “student of transformation.”
By the end of this article, you’ll know how to avoid stagnation and instead foster constant growth in your coaching business.
With so much to cover, let’s begin!
1. Maintain A State Of Life-Long Learning As A Student Of Transformation
Being a life coach means embodying the example of growth and change as a continuous, life-long process.
And when you follow this approach to life coaching as a student of transformation, you inspire others to do the same.
This part of living what you teach is vital to your sacred calling as a life coach. So as teachers of transformation, let’s rediscover the importance of showing up as a student of transformation for yourself, and for others.
The Universe Is Your (Infinitely Generous) Teacher
In your lifetime, the Universe will continually invite you up the spiral of your own becoming. And while the Universe will never call you to perfection, it will ask you questions like:
“How can I express myself through you in ever greater ways?”
When you study the signs and signals of the Universe, what you’re really doing is studying yourself. You are one with the infinite, and this greatness in you will always call you to progress, growth, and greater expansion. The quality of your life will depend on the quality of your answer to this call.
But let’s say you’re in a rut and going through the motions. Maybe you’ve lost zeal or passion and you’re trying to tap back into the frequency of success and abundance in your life.
The best thing to do from where you’re standing – regardless of your circumstance, situation, or condition – is to hit the restart button. Take a breath and continue building your dreams from where you are, with what you have.
This can look like a wide range of things:
- Building a Solid Vision for your Coaching Business. This will help you set your direction and refresh your perspective.
- Completing an Online Course/Online Program. Whether you’re learning new coaching skills, soft skills, or technical skills, furthering your education is a surefire way to grow and challenge yourself.
- Graduating Out of a Coaching Training Program as a Certified Coach. Having a repeatable, proven system can help you build your coaching business faster and easier than doing it on your own.
- Personal Development/Professional Development. Investing in yourself can help you improve in all areas of life, especially in self-love, self-care, and overcoming your inner critic.
If none of these options currently speak to you, that’s okay.
As a life coach, it can be easy to grow far-sighted to the dreams we hold close to the heart. In other words, you can grow so attached to your vision that you drown out the signs and signals that the Universe is sending for you to think – and dream– bigger!
Sometimes we can slip back into subconscious paradigms and need to tap deeper into our awareness to release fear, doubt, worry, or unworthiness from our life.
So give yourself permission to notice your thoughts and lean into the courage you have within to dream BIG!
And if you still feel stuck – that you’ve hit a ceiling – or that you’ve tapped out your level of success, know that this is just another signal from the Universe. Whether you are listening to the signal of longing or discontent, they both guide you in the direction of expanding your dream.
2. Accelerate Your Growth As a Student of Transformation (By Asking The Right Questions)
As a student of transformation, the blueprint of your dream is a life-long project. But that doesn’t mean the assignment is yours alone to accomplish.
When you start to notice a plateau in the trajectory of your life, the solution is to surround yourself with support. With the right people, you’ll have a much easier time remembering who you truly are – connected to infinite power and potential – and shift back into the frequency of extraordinary results.
In order to shift out of auto-pilot and stay awake, you must “notice what you’re noticing” – and the most vivid image I can create is quite literal. Imagine that you’re fighting sleep. There are times when you drift off and nod your head, only for you to shake off the sleep and become aware of your consciousness again.
You know what makes it easier to stay awake?
Partners in believing.
Not just anyone, however. Especially as a student of transformation, it’s important to choose like-minded people to help you learn about your blind spots and accelerate your growth.
But how do you know who to go to – whose feedback to trust?
Should you go to family – friends – mentors?
Let’s make it as easy as possible to find the right people who can help you uncover your blind spots and guide you towards greater possibilities.
Transformative Learning: Ask The Right People About Your Blindspots
The closest people to you can have an agenda, and given the opportunity to “support you” with advice, they will speak from that agenda.
You’ve probably experienced some version of this from your family, friends, or peers.
Like getting the “same old speech” when you go to your mom or dad about a sensitive topic or getting the same negative advice from a friend.
So the challenge is to find the people in your life who have your highest good in mind. Before you approach someone for support, assess whether they have these 3 qualities:
- It’s somebody you care about who deep down you believe cares about you.
- It’s someone who has no agenda for you other than your fulfillment and happiness.
- It’s someone who is growing themselves (so they aren’t threatened by your growth).
If the person you’re considering matches the above criteria, I encourage you to ask them something along these lines:
“Hey, you know me – maybe you see something about me that I’m not seeing about myself that could help me grow. If there’s anything you could come up with – and it doesn’t have to be now – would you be willing to share with me?”
To show you how this is possible, I’ll share the conversation I had with my Mom that resulted in the most valuable feedback at the time it was needed the most…
My Mom was going to a church program on personal development and on week 3, they had an assignment about “blind spots”.
She was tasked to call 3 people that mattered to her and ask this question:
“How do you feel manipulated by me?”
Now, you can only imagine how strange I felt when she called me to answer that question! I was so hesitant, in fact, that I had to ask her for some time to think about it and get back to her.
But the moment I hung up the phone, I realized I knew exactly how I felt manipulated by her. After I recognized her sincerity and desire to grow, however, I called her back the next day.
“So, here’s what happens, Mom. I sincerely believe this happens because it’s a good intent on your part – you don’t want to interrupt me from my life or what I’m doing – so you don’t call me hardly ever. Sometimes a week – ten days – or two weeks go by and we haven’t talked.
And when I call you, you say ‘Oh, I’m so glad you called me because I’ve been wanting to tell you something!’ So that leaves the calling all on me!
What I would really love is that you call me whenever you want to call me. And if I’m busy, I’ll just say ‘I’m busy’ and call you back!”
My Mom responded, “Oh! Well I wasn’t calling you because I didn’t want to interrupt – you’re an adult woman now, you’ve got kids, you’re busy…”
And I said, “But to me it’s a blind spot – that you don’t know how I feel about that and I haven’t spoken up about it – so thank you for asking.”
That one conversation completely changed our relationship.
And all it took was for her to ask a question about how I might help her see into a blind spot and how it was affecting our relationship.
While I was going through a very difficult, disruptive time in my life, my Mom and I were spending time together. I was reminded of the time she asked about blindspots and asked her:
“Is there something you know about me that I don’t know about myself?”
In other words, I asked her if there was something she could see that I couldn’t see about myself that could help me.
A few hours later she came back to me and said, “I finally got it! You will only see the good in other people no matter what it costs you. You let people into your life who aren’t the best people at times.”
I sat there, mulling over it, and eventually I could see that I could grow in that area of being able to discern better. I could still see the good in every person, but discern who I let close to me.
And that was the beginning of a new era of growth and empowerment in my life.
You, too, have people in your life that can help you break into new levels of transformation. In fact, one of the greatest ways to grow is having people around you who help you grow.
As a student of transformation, this makes discernment even more important. Because when you surround yourself with the right people, you’ll not only uncover your blind spots, you’ll also accelerate your growth.
Create Extraordinary Results With Partners In Believing
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
This law of averages is a concept introduced by Jim Rohn to help people understand the impact of social influence, especially in the most intimate circles of life.
Another way to understand it is “whoever you allow to have influence in your life will also influence you through the way they think.”
So if the people you surround yourself with are thinking on the frequency of abundance and success, your thinking will generate more success!
So our results are a reflection of the thinking that we’re doing.
By staying in a supportive environment, surrounded by mentors and partners in believing, you amplify the vibration of success, abundance, and results in your life and those around you.
As a personal example, let’s take a look at my own transformation back in the 1980’s.
Before my first official mentorship, I was doing my best to create success. I had done lots of training and I was building a professional training company with my love for helping people, but I hit a wall and I couldn’t seem to get past that level of success.
It wasn’t the success I dreamed of.
And it wasn’t success that I really longed for in terms of making an impact.
So I stepped into my role as a student of transformation and went to a seminar. From there, I met a man whose life reflected the success I desired for myself.
I had the privilege of having that man as a mentor – and therefore a partner in believing – for five years.
Here’s the influence he made within that time frame:
- He helped me learn how to think, especially in noticing my subconscious paradigms.
- He taught me how to approach problems and solutions differently.
- He helped me generate ideas for what I could do with that I had at the time.
Within a single year I doubled all the results that I was wanting in my life. From there I doubled my results again. And on and on, exponentially.
Not only did that partnership completely change my life, it changed my entire trajectory for the next 25 years and beyond.
So know this:
Whoever you allow to serve in the role of your partner in believing will have a far and lasting impact in your life.
When you start considering who to invite into the sum of your averages, you want to make sure they satisfy the following requirements in order to truly help you up the spiral of your own becoming:
1. They have a solid measure of success themselves.
You wouldn’t go asking somebody who hasn’t achieved what you want to achieve if they themselves don’t think it’s possible to achieve it! How would they know it’s possible if they haven’t done it themselves?
You want a partner that you can actually learn from their experience. Their accomplishments are the kind you’d love to achieve and experience. That means they have a lot of world experience and know how to help you grow.
2. You want someone who believes in your ability to create whatever you set your mind to.
A true partner believes in the power in YOU to create whatever you want to create. A power in you that’s greater than your history, your performance, than the problems you’re facing, than any situation – circumstance – or condition.
Who truly believes that whatever the mind can conceive, you can actually achieve. You want them to be solid in that belief so you can be solid in that too – so solid that you BORROW from their BELIEVING.
So even when you’re tempted to “squeeze” the infinite into your plans, you’ll be reminded of the solid belief your partner has and keep an open mind to the possibilities and therefore be open to receive those results.
3. You want someone who will make no agreements with conditions.
A true partner in believing will make no agreements with why any “x” circumstance is going to stop you from achieving your dream. You want someone who will remind you that you are more powerful and contain more potential than any situation or condition.
They will encourage you to dream bigger. Beyond your fear, they’ll continue to ask “what would you love?” and pull out the depths of your longing. They will also understand that you’re going to stumble along the way, but they’ll help you measure your progress especially when you’re distracted, delayed, or discouraged.
Now imagine this positive influence on a much larger scale. Where you can stay in a supportive environment, see other life coaches in action, and work with transformational principles in different ways with fresh perspectives.
This is where you can really thrive as a life coach and a student of transformation.
And it happens at events like the DreamBuilder LIVE!
Conclusion: Your Invitation To DreamBuilder LIVE (Virtual)!
We’ve touched on how your vision, partnerships, and growth are all benefited by being a student of transformation. The critical shifts you need to make are now evident; you are ready to step out of auto-pilot and expand your vision for success.
If you’re seeking mentorship and partnerships required for your next level of transformation as a life coach, I want to offer you the opportunity to connect with true partners in believing.
Join me along with thousands of people all over the globe at DreamBuilder LIVE Virtual for a 3-day deep dive into the spiritual principles, proven strategies, and practical tools for transforming yourself and creating your dream life.
Here’s what past attendees say about their results:
“I used to make $100,000 a year. Now I make close to $3 million a year. I am a Brave Thinking Master!” Linna Tanny, Denver, Colorado Read more…
“I worked myself to the bone to try to measure up to a mental, internal standard of success that I’d created for myself. I wouldn’t take any vacations. My life was all work and no play.” George Chung, Sarasota, Florida Read more…
“I was sick for so long that I don’t even remember what it felt like to feel healthy, to have energy. Now, I have more energy than my kids do.” Kelly Olson, Circle Pines, Minnesota Read more…
“My self-esteem is good, my blood pressure is better. No more type 2 diabetes… and guess what? I’m alive! And I went from making $15,000-$20,000 a year to $115,000-$120,000 a year.” Jubril Wilson, Mitchellville, Maryland Read more…
“I don’t know where I would be without the support that I received from the staff and from fellow DreamBuilders.” Carol Currier, Sterling, Virginia Carol described her social life as almost “non-existent,” Read more…
“That’s when I realized that I had a deep loneliness that had always been there but I had completely covered it up with constant activity.” Linda Smith, Townville, South Carolina Read more…
“For 20 years prior to me working with Mary, I had systematically given away my life to my job. I felt undervalued and definitely was overworked. I was mentally and physically exhausted.” Anne Prinz, Washington, Missouri Read more…
“I put my personal life first – my self-care, my golf, my family and friends, my vacation. I put all of that in first, for the first time ever…” Maria Miyashiro, Honolulu, Hawaii Read more…
Join the long list of DreamBuilders who create extraordinary results to live a life they love.
You’ll also have an interactive, virtual experience with thousands of other dream builders from all walks of life, all over the world. This includes small group activities where you’ll join others in creating your crystal-clear vision or evolve the one you have now.
While you work together to accomplish your vision-driven life, you’ll experience what it’s like to be in a supportive environment, as well as share in the high vibration of success and abundance that dreambuilding creates.
I look forward to seeing you there!