The Law of Attraction directly connects us to the abundance of the universe – or so they say.
Maybe you’ve tried everything you could think of to manifest your desires, but despite all the books, videos, and meditation, you’re still not getting the results you expected.
Perhaps you’ve even made some progress, but it’s nowhere near the level of success you’ve been dreaming of!
If you find yourself in that low vibration of lack and want, first know that you are not alone! You are not the first to experience frustration, doubt, impatience, or discouragement in these moments.
More importantly, know that you can easily reconnect with the Infinite and tune back into the frequency of abundance in your life.
So let’s get right into the top 3 reasons you’re not getting results with the Law of Attraction and give you the tools you need to align with abundance once more and create the extraordinary results you deserve!
#1 You Need To Speak A Language The Universe Understands
You are the author of your life story. As such, your words hold immense creative power – the power you’ll need to attract your deepest desires!
Your words have the power to affect your attitude, actions, and ultimately, your results with the Law of Attraction.
Napoleon Hill wrote in “The Keys to Success” that a positive mental attitude is the number one quality of an attractive personality.
He added, “You will depend on it in everything you do.”
So simply by being more aware of the words you think and speak, you generate an abundance of energy and positive magnetism.
Let’s continue to explore how you can shift the pattern of your thinking.
Brave Thinking Leads to Brave Language (Which Leads to an Attractive Life)
One of the most effective tools for rewiring your thoughts is the practice of daily, positive affirmations.
You’ve likely heard of affirmations before… but you may not know that there is a specific way to work with affirmations to get the best results!
Most important when designing affirmations to use is to be conscious of the language you use.
Negative words represent negative emotions and thoughts just as positive words reflect positive thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Shifting from the default – or what I call “common” thinking – into “brave thinking” will transform your mindset and attract better results into your life!
Practice speaking the language of a Brave Thinker and see if you notice the difference in your energy and attitude!
Try these positive affirmations:
- “I need” implies lack or scarcity vs. “I would love” invites abundance. Reframe “need” statements with the expansive energy of love.
Ex: “I need to find a partner.” / “I would love to find a partner who values me!”
- Using “I am” brings your dream into the present rather than pushing the positive into the future.
Ex: “I will be a money magnet.” / “I am a money magnet and my bank account is open to receive!”
- Create affirmations as if you already manifested your desires instead of focusing on negative experiences you wish to avoid.
Ex: “I will find a better job because I don’t want to be stuck in this career.” / “I attract opportunities for my dream career and financial abundance!”
These affirmations will help you step into the version of yourself that has everything you desire as well as deepen your connection with the Law of Attraction in ever-expanding ways.
Remember as well to say these often! Your internal dialogue requires a steady stream of positive thinking to hold the right vibration for abundance.
Know this, however, that no one expects you to have a perfectly positive attitude at all times. Rather, we master Brave Thinking by trending our thoughts in the direction of what we would love. Keep going and you’ll see the results!
#2 You Need To Think Outside The Box
Your comfort zone, or the mindset of “thinking inside the box”, has another name: your paradigm.
A “paradigm” is a collection of thoughts, behaviors, and beliefs that defines your perception of “normal”.
We all have paradigms, and they are often the result of conditioning from our families, schools, media, and other critical influences.
When you aren’t aware of our paradigms, they take control of your life!
And you are disconnected from your power by believing that your circumstances control and determine your potential (as opposed to your paradigms).
On the other hand, you need more than just awareness of your paradigms to transform your mindset!
It’s like having the measurements of the box you’re in: it won’t change your life, but it will help you understand where to expand beyond it.
By limiting your thinking to what you can have or what seems possible under your current circumstances, you disconnect from the Infinite.
In the words of Henry Ford,
“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.”
So an essential step of wielding the power of the Law of Attraction is expanding your thinking beyond what you’ve been able to accomplish in the past, and allowing yourself to dream of what you would love.
You do not need to know “how” it will be accomplished, only that it can be done, and the Universe would love to help you!
So, knowing that the universe is ready and willing to support you, consider this key question: are you open to receiving?
As you hold this question in mind, let’s answer how you can get access to the abundance you deserve.
From Undeserving to Unlimited Attraction
Moving to the frequency of abundance requires that you amplify your sense of deserving!
The universe gives in direct proportion to your willingness to receive it.
In other words, the universe has unlimited capacity to manifest anything you dream of, but only if you’re in harmony with the way the law works.
The first step in expanding out of the low vibration of undeserving is by acknowledging and releasing your limiting beliefs. Your limiting beliefs stop you from dreaming and limit your potential based on your past and present experiences.
For instance, throughout your lifetime you’ve had meaningful, enriching, and valuable experiences, but your inner doubt and judgment make you doubt your worthiness for such good fortune.
At the same time, you may be anchored into a sense of undeserving based on the situations, circumstances, and conditions of both your past and present.
Although there is no going back and changing what happened in your life, you can absolutely change your perspective of those circumstances.
As you reflect, you may experience doubt, lack, hurt, or worry creep into your consciousness. Notice the thoughts, visions, and feelings that are connected to those stories. Then, acknowledge and release them.
Also, keep in mind that condition-based thinking is the major programming on Earth, so shifting your mindset won’t be like flipping a switch.
It takes consistent practice and baby steps to release old patterns and behaviors.
The key to unlocking unlimited abundance with the Law of Attraction is by shifting into a vibration of gratitude and accepting your “Self”.
This generative gratitude will align you with abundance, and with it you will truly begin to attract what your heart and mind desire.
Attract Wealth by Changing Your Money Mindset
In the same way paradigms are built from life-long influences, your money mindset is developed by your family, friends, and environment.
Consequently, your unique beliefs and attitudes around money may be the very thing preventing you from getting results with the Law of Attraction and attracting abundance.
So, if you’re having trouble manifesting a better financial situation using the Law of Attraction, first assess your money mindset.
One example of a dominant money mindset is that the love of money is the root of all evil.
On top of that, most spiritual people share the opinion that it’s wrong to love money! I was one of them until a single teaching completely changed my relationship with money.
In the early ’70s, I traveled across the country to see a famous spiritual teacher.
He was well-known and filled out the 3,000-seat Lincoln Hall every week in New York City.
I remember him stepping on stage, pulling out a large wad of bills, fanning them in front of the crowd, and kissing them over and over again.
He proudly proclaimed, “I just LOVE money!”
I was repulsed. My body tensed up and filled with judgment and criticism. Among the crowd, I was far from the only one shocked and grossly disappointed.
Upon putting the money back into his pocket, he said:
“I just want you to notice if you had some feelings of repulsion, criticism, or judgment about what I just did. Maybe you even wondered if, in fact, I am not even a spiritual person.”
I couldn’t help but nod. Then he asked how we would have felt if the money was replaced by his grandson.
So instead of a wad of bills, imagine if he had picked up his grandson, held him out and said “I just LOVE my grandson!”
He continued, “I bet not one of you would have felt repulsed or revolted. Why?
Because you’ve been highly trained that it’s okay to love a grandchild, but it’s not okay, or even spiritual, to love the symbol of your freedom.”
By reframing, he transformed our perception of money as a source of vanity and greed into one of freedom and abundance.
From then on, I understood money as energy that flows from one person to the next.
So, if you feel repulsed, dirty, or connect any other kind of negative energy to money, you block its flow to you.
Or as this spiritual teacher posed it, “Why would it ever come where it’s not loved?”
Living in fear of money prevents you from attracting more wealth or prosperity into your life and from getting results with the Law of Attraction.
Choose, instead, to believe that energy will enable you to be comfortable enough, so you can be creative enough, to really give the gifts that are within you to the world.
#3 You Need to Expect More of the Universe!
No matter how strong your desire is, if you don’t believe the universe has the ability to deliver those results, you’re not manifesting – you’re daydreaming.
So how do you remedy this situation?
Use Tools That Amplify the Law of Attraction
One of the most powerful ways to increase your success with the Law of Attraction is by writing down exactly what you want to attract and readily expect to receive it.
Dr. Gail Matthews, a psychology professor at the Dominican University in California, discovered that “you become 42% more likely to achieve your goals and dreams, simply by writing them down on a regular basis.”
This relationship has to do with how our brains are wired.
When the right side of the brain (which is imaginative) works with the left side of the brain (which is literal), those signals transcend the physical and communicate with your spirit.
In short, you hold immense creative power just by directing your imagination to the things you want to manifest!
You can expand on this by pairing your writing with emotion and a crystal clear vision.
Using a visualization tool, such as a vision board, will help you connect your emotions to your desire, thereby amplifying the Law of Attraction even further!
Here’s an easy way to get started on your vision board:
- Start with a blank canvas (posters, paper, or even a blank wall are all great places to start!).
- Collect pictures, quotes, or other physical materials that represent what you’re manifesting. This can include magazine clippings, drawings, or anything else that draws a clear image of what you desire.
- Decorate your vision board with things that inspire you! There’s no right or wrong answer here, but don’t miss out on the opportunity to write brave affirmations into the mix!
Have fun with this, and remember to attach positive emotions to the things you write and the materials you use to represent your dream!
This sets the intention to be reminded, inspired, and redirected to attract the life you would love.
You’re Meant For Something Better
When all is said and done and your desires aren’t manifesting even after changing your language, living beyond your paradigm, and expanding your expectations, be open to the possibility that the universe is giving you a sign.
One that’s meant to guide you to something even greater than what you think you want!
Your perceived failure might actually be a stepping stone…one that is leading you in a new direction you will love. When you reach the confusing point of whether to change the direction or persevere, hold this thought:
“This or something better.”
At every moment, you are being guided away from people and situations which do not serve your highest good and towards opportunities to experience greater joy, abundance, fulfillment, and fun.
If and when you do choose to change direction, don’t be afraid to start from scratch and create a whole new vision. You can use this Vision Board Kit to inspire your next one!
Getting Results With the Law of Attraction
As you continue to work with the Law of Attraction, remember that the highest result is your growth and spiritual development as a human being.
Ultimately, learning to use the Law of Attraction will amplify your aliveness and teach you to celebrate who you are and the life you’re building.
Each one of us is given a single dash between two dates on our gravestone, and that line of legacy will stretch into infinity by the lessons you learned, the friendships you formed, and who you became in the process of living a life you loved.
Are you getting results with the Law of Attraction? Share in the comments below.
A target sceptical BUT what if ?
Expectation is a vital part of the Law of Attraction, so you are off to a great start, John!
Mary, you’re such a guiding gem of light in this world. Your words have broken ugh me back to my unicorn center many times I’ve Vee the last ten years. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. I would love to follow in your footsteps and be beaconing light for others as well!
*Brought me back to my unicorn center*
Thanks, I needed this so much now.
What if u r clinically depressed, on meds-and unable to picture that good will happen? Real life struggles have overwhelmed you. Claiming what feels impossible, feels disingenuous. Is the Universe so cruel, if u cant tick off certain boxes, u fail?
Life is cruel & so is the universe…feel the same way…pass or fail…sink or swim