The Universal Laws have been used by generations of people to create success and abundance in their lives. But over time, myths and misconceptions about the Law of Attraction have risen up and discouraged people from creating the same results.
In this post, I’ll clear up myths, mistakes, and misconceptions surrounding The Law of Attraction based on my 50 years of study in spiritual principles. You’ll discover the proven path to success and learn the truth behind the Law of Attraction!
So, if you’ve felt misguided, misdirected, or misinformed about the Law of Attraction, let’s cut to the truth and get started!
Top Myths about the Law of Attraction
According to the Law of Attraction, you attract specific results and experiences into your life through your thoughts and beliefs.
Positive Thinking = Positive Results / Negative Thinking = Negative Results
Although simply understood as “like attracts like”, there are a lot of myths about this Universal Law that minimize its power and raise questions like:
- Does the Law of Attraction work for everyone?
- Do lazy people use the Law of Attraction as an excuse not to work?
- Do I have to be perfect and positive all the time for the Law of Attraction to work?
Let’s learn more about each of these and how to respond when those thoughts surface.
MYTH 1: The Law of Attraction is only available to “select” people.
There’s a science behind the Law of Attraction just as there’s a science behind the law of electricity, and both laws are constantly working all the time regardless of our belief, knowledge, or who you are as an individual (more on this later).
But the majority of people who have given up on the Law of Attraction process usually do so because of one or more of the following scenarios:
- They see others enjoying the success and abundance they desire and resort to jealousy, a bad attitude, or disbelief that the same results are available to them.
- While trying to manifest their desires, they constantly complain about their life, health, career, or relationships, and don’t notice their negative emotions.
- When good things do happen, they feel a sense of dread waiting for the “other shoe to fall off.”
These experiences make it seem like the Law of Attraction isn’t working when in reality, it’s just a disconnect between the vibration of your thoughts and the frequency that the Law of Attraction works on.
It has nothing to do with who you are as a person (background, status, etc.).
For example, if you plug in a lamp and it doesn’t turn on, you don’t immediately think “Well, I just wasn’t meant to have light.”
Instead, you recognize the disconnect and realize something is interfering with the flow of electricity.
In the same way you’d plug a lamp into the socket to connect it to electricity, you plug your thinking into the Infinite to connect to abundance.
So here are some Law of Attraction exercises to unblock and reconnect you to the Infinite so you can welcome the flow of abundance to you:
- Use a Vision Board
- Build a Gratitude Habit (write 5 things you’re grateful for each day)
- Keep a “Proof Book” (Record all your wins and success stories)
- Write and Read Aloud Daily Affirmations (using brave thinking principles)
- Connect with Partners in Believing (people who will help you nurture your dreams, challenge you to dream bigger, and remind you of your goals when obstacles try to distract you from your greater vision.
These tools are available to everyone, not just “the elite”. The Universe is open and eager to work with all people equally to create lives they love.
The key here is to operate on the frequency of the Law of Attraction, with the right exercises and tools to wire you in!
MYTH 2: The Law of Attraction is for lazy people who don’t want to work for their dreams.
In other words, “all you have to do is think about what you want – really hard – and it will eventually manifest in your life.”
But the Universal Law of Attraction is not a magic wand that grants ambiguous desires.
It works WITH the vibration of your thoughts. You co-create with the Universe because “everything is created twice”. First in thought, then in form.
Take for instance, a chair. Before there was a physical product, someone had to imagine what the chair looked like.
This mental image served as a blueprint for them to create the chair in physical form.
The pattern looks like this:
Thoughts Inspire Actions → Actions Influence Habits → Habits Create Your Results
Your results are a perfect mirror to the thinking patterns you’re currently working with.
For example, if you desire more wealth, but your thoughts are constantly filled with worry, you vibrate at a level of lack and scarcity. Working on that low vibration, you’ll be less likely to take any action that would bring you closer to your dream.
So to attract the results you desire, your thoughts must match the vibration of those things, and then lead to bold, brave action!
Trend your thoughts towards positive expectation and gratitude. Step into the feeling of already having what you desire so you can COME from the result instead of going TO it.
When you have that specific dream in mind, you won’t be able to sit still. Instead, you’ll be inspired to take action and make one baby step after another towards a life you love!
You can learn the step-by-step process on how to create more success and abundance with the Law of Attraction here.
Isn’t the Law of Attraction all about “getting stuff”?
When I first started learning about the Law of Attraction 50 years ago, I noticed that most people start on a low consciousness level of manifestation.
Where manifesting feels like “I can make this happen.”
But this myth and misconception about the Law of Attraction being materialistic is actually a stage we grow out of as we mature as spiritual beings.
A good friend and colleague of mine, Reverend Michael Beckwith, has a teaching about how we move through stages of consciousness on our spiritual journey through the 4 stages of spiritual growth.
These stages showcase the subconscious myths and misconceptions we carry and eventually release as we expand and grow our awareness.
The stage where we desire manifestation of “things” is described in this way:
The second stage is “manifestation consciousness.” It’s at this point you begin to realize your role as a spiritual being with the ability to create results in life based on your thoughts and actions.
As you explore Law of Attraction tools like visualization, affirmations (brave thinking), and meditation to influence your reality, it can be tempting to remain at this level of awareness and empowerment.
To experience growth from this stage, you must learn to let go of control (“this or something better”).
From there, you grow into the stage of “channeling consciousness” where you transition from “I make things happen” to “I make things welcome.”
So as you mature from one spiritual stage onto another, remember that learning how to manifest success and abundance isn’t the end of the road.
Yes, manifesting your dream career, partner, home, or anything else you desire is possible (and the Universe is open and willing to work with you to create those results), but there is more to life than accumulating “things”.
For a vision to be brought forth, it must be in alignment with our thinking, achieved through practice, and welcomed with positive expectation and gratitude.
Because life is always seeking to express itself in ever greater ways through you, the key is to allow it to happen instead of always trying to “make it happen”.
MYTH 3: You have to be positive all the time for the Law of Attraction to work.
When it comes to the Law of Attraction there’s a lot of talk about positive thinking, energy, and positive emotions.
So much so, that people often wonder if the Law of Attraction is just another word for toxic positivity!
Toxic positivity is “An obsession with positive thinking…that can silence negative emotions, demean grief, and make people feel under pressure to pretend to be happy even when they are struggling.”
This misconception about the Law of Attraction is disempowering because it leads people to believe even the smallest, negative thought can sabotage their manifestation.
The truth is, it’s about noticing what you’re noticing and trending your thoughts towards positivity.
Having negative thoughts and feelings are all a part of our human experience, but the point is not to park ourselves in that low vibration state.
Allow them to flow through and release the thoughts that no longer serve you.
A good exercise is to get in the habit of noticing when your mind is spiraling into lower vibration thoughts. Acknowledge the feeling and trace it back to the thought that caused it.
This awareness will help you determine whether your thoughts are expansive (growing you) or contractive (keeping you stuck).
The Law of Attraction is not about controlling every single thought and forcing it into a “positivity mold”.
It’s about choosing which thoughts to pay attention to, responding to life’s circumstances with grace, and learning how to raise your vibration.
Common Mistakes People Make When Working with the Law of Attraction
Although the Law of Attraction works perfectly, it doesn’t mean we always operate it perfectly.
Let’s say you have a lamp that you really want to use. You imagine it lighting up, how bright it’ll be, and how you’ll be able to see things better with it on. But you refuse to connect the plug to the outlet.
Instead, you decide you’re going to just believe it will light up on its own.
Obviously, just because you decide you’re going to do it your own way doesn’t change how the law of electricity actually works.
In the same way, your frustrations with manifestation may simply be a disconnect with how the Law of Attraction works.
So if you haven’t been getting the results you desire, I encourage you to consider the following common mistakes that block the Law of Attraction from working for you:
1- You’re Not Operating with the Other Universal Laws
The Law of Attraction is only one of 11 Universal Laws:
- The Law of Thinking: The vibration of your thoughts creates the frequency of your feelings and actions, and therefore, your results.
- The Law of Supply: The Universe has unlimited capacity to bring every desire into your current reality.
3. The Law of Attraction: You magnetize results into your life that match the energy of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions.
- The Law of Receiving: In order to receive all the gifts the Universe you desire, you must have a sense of positive expectation and deserving, and be open to actually receiving the good the Universe is giving you!
- The Law of Increase: When you praise the current life you have and hold gratitude for all that you desire as if your dreams have already manifested, you will continue to receive more from the Universe.
- The Law of Compensation: “You reap what you sow” – if you plant seeds (aka think thoughts) of success or failure into your life, you will harvest the same results.
- The Law of Non-Resistance: By allowing your thoughts, feelings, and actions to flow with your desire, you follow the path of least resistance to your dream.
- The Law of Forgiveness: Forgiveness sets us free and opens the floodgates for abundance to flow into our lives.
- The Law of Sacrifice: By releasing what is no longer serving you – including influences and paradigms – you create space for your dreams and desires.
- The Law of Obedience: By operating with the Universal Laws, they will work in harmony with you.
- The Law of Success: The Universe is always ready and eager to support and give you all that you desire. Success is your birthright and the Universal Laws will work with you if you’re in alignment with them.
Learning how to be in harmony with all 11 Universal laws may be the key to your manifestation breakthrough.
2- Allowing subconscious blocks to get in the way of your dream
In our internal dialogue, we tend to adopt a “common hour thinking” approach. This is when fear, doubt, and other low vibrational feelings generate negative emotions and subconscious blocks to successful manifestation.
Generally, this happens as a result of years of conditioning from family, culture, upbringing, and other major influences. These ingrained thinking patterns are also called your paradigms.
Paradigms define what’s “normal” for you.
Some paradigms are contractive and limit our potential for success through Dissuasion, Distraction, and Delay (which are all abundance blocks).
But by trending your thoughts and dialogue towards brave thinking, you amplify your connection to the Law of Attraction and empower yourself to operate all 11 Universal laws of success!
As a result of brave thinking, we change our language into one of empowerment and positive expectation by:
- Bringing what you desire into the present moment so you can step into the version of yourself that already has your dream life.
- Focusing on infinite possibility and not on what seems “realistic” or “normal”.
- Increasing the attractive power of your desires by charging your language with positive, strong emotions.
- Encouraging a sense of worthiness and an attitude of gratitude towards the manifestation of your dreams.
Practicing these empowering ways of thinking and speaking counteracts our limiting paradigms and stops self-sabotage in its tracks!
3- Not opening yourself up to new, bigger dreams.
We can be so attached to our dreams and vision that when we don’t see the results we expect, we fall into the assumption that the Law of Attraction doesn’t work.
Instead of calling it a loss, this could be a signal that you’re meant for more than you thought possible, and the Universe is pointing you in a new direction!
Throughout your life, you will be guided away from people and situations that don’t serve your highest good so that you can experience more joy, abundance, fulfillment, and fun.
That could mean embracing something entirely different from what you thought you wanted!
If and when that happens, hold on to the promise of “This or something better still” because just like you, your dream is meant to expand and grow.
And by remaining open and willing to step out of your comfort zone, you will be guided on to the green, growing edge of your becoming in life-giving ways.
If you would love a comprehensive guide on all 3 of these mistakes, I encourage you to read “Common Law Of Attraction Mistakes and How to Avoid Them.”
Top Misconceptions about the Law of Attraction
There are many conclusions people draw about the Law of Attraction when they don’t have a complete understanding of how it works.
As a result, these beliefs discourage people from using the Law of Attraction out of fear and delay them from experiencing their own life-changing results.
Some of the most common misconceptions about the Law of Attraction include:
1. The Law of Attraction is only for witchy/spiritual people.
Today, science provides the answers to many of the questions people have about the Law of Attraction through neuroscience, psychology, quantum mechanics/physics, and other fields of research.
But before the scientific reports came out…
Before the Harvard Medical Teaching Institute established the Mind-Body Clinic…
And before our modern understanding of our subconscious mind and how vibrations influence our experiences in life…
People would dismiss the Law of Attraction as science fiction.
Nowadays, there is ample scientific evidence ranging from medical journals to neuroimaging that proves it beyond “superstition”.
So much so, I have a separate post dedicated to the science behind the Law of Attraction here.
2- Becoming successful through the Law of Attraction will mean losing people close to me.
A common misconception about the Law of Attraction is rooted in the fear of success.
In my post about “5 Deadly Success Myths that Can Block Your Prosperity” I list a few of the common fears, questions, and doubts people have about success:
- What will people think of me?
- What if my friends don’t grow like I do?
- Will my parents accept my choices?
- Will my friends think I’m competing with them?
- Who will I spend time with if I lose all of my friends?
These fears actually block your connection with the Law of Attraction because it shifts your thoughts into a frequency of fear and negativity.
If you notice your thoughts leaning in this direction, consider the people and influences you surround yourself with.
Jim Rohn says, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
I am not advocating you to leave anyone for the sake of your dream, but rather to invite people into your life who are forward-thinking, like-minded, and who will support you in building your dream.
By intentionally seeking uplifting people into your life, you’ll naturally attract more positive outcomes and experience exponential growth.
3- If I use the Law of Attraction for one thing, I might suffer in other areas of my life.
The Law of Attraction creates results in 4 main quadrants in your life:
- Health & Well-Being
- Relationships
- Vocation
- Time & Money Freedom
This is important to note because some people believe that if they want expansion in one area, it’ll mean contraction in another.
Phrases like “success requires sacrificing what matters to you” or “everything comes at a cost” are usually what comes to mind with this misconception about the Law of Attraction.
The truth is, the Universe has an UNLIMITED capacity to give anyone all they desire.
There are endless possibilities and infinite gifts/blessings that your source (God/Life/Universe) would love to co-create with you.
This includes results in all areas, not just “one or the other.”
By having a clear vision of your dream and testing it to be worthy of you and your life, you will be naturally aligned with what matters most to you, in every area of life.
Getting Past Myths, Mistakes, & Misconceptions and Creating a Clear Vision for Your Life
I have been coaching thousands of people from all walks of life in spiritual principles for over 40 years. With that said, the topics we covered only represent a fraction of the misguided information that has persisted over time.
But instead of focusing on what’s wrong, let’s now direct our energy towards what we can do right.
To start using the Law of Attraction effectively, start with clarifying your vision.
As I mentioned earlier, everything in this world is created twice – first in thought, then in form. So to create a life you love living, you must first design an ignited vision of what that life will look like.
If you would love to reach more clarity and guidance in building your vision, I encourage you to download my free ebook: Igniting your Vision (Designing a Dream that Lights You Up)
I’ve made it as easy as possible for you to define your dream and visualize what you would love for your life using a simple, step-by-step process.
Now let’s leave behind the myths and misconceptions about the Law of Attraction and move towards positive growth, abundance, and success!
To dreaming up unlimited possibilities,
Mary Morrissey
Mary
I have perfected positive thinking!
And am on
A have been on
A crazy renovation road for the last 3 months
I really enjoy it but now my vision is coming true I have bad dreams that people will leave me and call me selfish and nasty
It has happened before when I feel really happy I start to feel that something will go wrong and I am a bad person
I had a really bad dream last night that everyone hated me
How do I stop this. I’m at the stage of my life where I just want to do good in the world
Your reading on positivity helped thankyou so much
Debbie
Hi Deborah! We’ll pass your gratitude on to Mary! She has a night practice to visualize and design the next day. When you do your practices at night consistently, ultimately your subconscious mind will keep these thoughts throughout your sleep. This can help!