Happy New Year, and I hope this year is off to an incredible start for you!
As we celebrate the beginning of the new year and this new decade, I have a couple of quick questions for you:
Did you make your New Year’s Resolutions for 2020? And how are they going so far?
I hope you’re already seeing progress, and things are going well! And if you’re starting to feel a little off track, discouraged, or you’re losing some inspiration, I want to let you know that you’re not alone.
In fact, many people fail to keep their resolutions as early as February!
Why New Year’s Resolutions Have High Fail Rates
Why do New Year’s Resolutions have such a high failure rate, anyways? In my work with my coaching clients, and in my own life, I’ve found three main culprits:
1. Setting too many resolutions and becoming overwhelmed
Scattering your attention on too many resolutions can quickly cause overwhelm and resolution fatigue, until you simply revert to your same old habits.
2. Setting too large a resolution and relying on a lot of willpower to succeed
For example, if you haven’t worked out in years and you decide you’re going to work out every day, you can usually only sustain the new routine for a little while until your old habits kick in and self-sabotage knocks you off track.
3. Deciding you can “go it alone,” relying only on yourself and willpower alone to achieve your goal
This is truly one of the biggest reasons why people fail at achieving their resolutions.
So what do the most highly successful people do in keeping their New Year’s Resolutions?
I have found 3 main secrets!
Secret #1: Set one MAIN New Year’s Resolution
Perhaps your resolution is to get healthier.
And you say you want to eat healthier, exercise more, love yourself more and lose weight.
The challenge is these are several broad goals that often require a whole life overhaul.
And when you do that, your current comfort zone will quickly try to sabotage you to keep you ‘safe and sound’ right where you are.
I suggest focusing on ONE primary intention at a time.
My dear friend and colleague, Kirsten Welles says,
“The system with the least diversity conducts the most energy.”
And it’s 100% true!
So focus on either eating healthier, exercising more, or loving yourself more, versus all three at once.
Take the larger goal, and be sure it’s specific, measurable, and add your deeper ‘why’ you want to achieve it.
Instead of simply saying “I want to eat healthier,” set an intention that is specific, measurable, and then I also suggest linking eating healthier to a deeper ‘WHY’.
Here’s an example of that:
To eat healthier.
Eat more fruits and vegetables.
Eat 3 servings of fruits and veggies per day for the next 30 days.
Ask yourself, “WHY do I want to eat healthier?”
Chances are, you want to feel healthier and have more energy to do the work you love, and enjoy increased vitality so you can create amazing life memories having fun with your friends and loved ones.
Once you choose ONE resolution, that is specific, and measurable, and you have a deeper why, your next step is to set yourself up to crush your goal.
Not start out strong and then lose steam all too quickly.
So how do you do that?
Here’s the secret…
Secret #2: Break your goal down into TINY bite-sized action steps
How many times have we heard of people who did great the first few weeks and then got sidetracked?
If you choose one goal but set your expectations of yourself too high, it’s easy to feel strong at first, but then lose momentum fast.
For example, if you want to exercise 5 hours a week and you’re not currently exercising at all, your chances are high that after your initial willpower wears off, your subconscious patterns will kick back in and you will stop working out after awhile.
Ideally, you want to set an absolute no-brainer goal, like 5 minutes of movement/exercise 3 times a week.
This creates momentum, builds self-trust and creates an easy win.
Once you begin to see how good it feels to achieve this small baby step, you will be way more likely to increase that goal to 10 minutes, then 20, then 40 and then 60 minutes, several times a week.
Remember the goal we talked about of eating 3 servings of fruits and vegetables 3 days a week for 30 days?
If you are eating zero servings of fruits and vegetables right now, I don’t suggest going from zero to 3 overnight.
But simply adding one serving this week makes it easy to add 3 servings 3 times a week the week after, and then upping your servings from there.
Start small, give yourself a chance to WIN, build some momentum and then grow from there.
This leads me to my third secret of highly successful people.
Did you know most people are way more likely to accomplish a goal when they have support and someone helping to hold them accountable?
Highly successful people do NOT go it alone.
They get support, coaching and mentoring.
Secret #3: Get coaching, support and accountability
Most health programs are one-size-fits-all, and are focused on things like:
- “No pain, no gain,”
- Calories in and calories out
- “All work and no play”
- Deprivation mentality to dieting
All of these approaches are destined to FAIL, because they don’t address the real deeper reasons why most people aren’t experiencing their ideal health results.
Deep down, we ALL have beliefs about food, exercise, our own genes, and so much more.
Let me ask you this…
Have you heard the following?
- “I just have the fat gene”
- “I’ve never been athletic”
- “I just don’t like exercising”
- “Whatever I put in my mouth just seems to land on my hips”
- “I’ve gained weight because of my age”
These are all limiting beliefs, and we cannot outperform our own self-image.
So having transformational mind-body-spirit holistic wellness coaching that addresses the subconscious limiting beliefs with coaching and support, is absolutely crucial to achieving your goals and resolutions in 2020!
And this is exactly why I do what I do!
To help you create your ideal vitality, radiance and wellbeing and live a life you love living!
If you’re a heart-centered woman who’s looking to feel more energy, self-confidence and a sense of aliveness in your body, while making progress toward your ideal weight, I invite you to learn more about my Vibrant Healthy Woman Coaching Program.
You can learn more about the program and schedule a FREE health and wellbeing consultation by clicking here.
Now I ask you:
How are your 2020 goals working out?
What steps will you take to bring your big 2020 goals into life?
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