Learn The 5 Tools to Unlock Your Aliveness and Find Balance in Life
Can you truly “have it all”?
Is it possible to succeed at your career without sacrificing your personal life?
So many women think of work-life balance as a ‘holy grail’ – a desired ideal that only a few achieve.
Perhaps that’s you – wishing to not be exhausted all the time, but not knowing how to make balance happen.
And I totally understand. I know how it feels to wake up one day feeling disconnected from your husband, unhappy in your life, as an irritated mom – because there was a time in my life when I did feel those things.
I felt like I got lost – but I was able to find my way back to health, happiness and joy.
I could probably teach on this topic for weeks, months or even years…
Because after years of struggling with low self-confidence, ignoring my purpose, and putting myself on the back-burner, I learned the secrets that allowed me to become a successful wife, mom, and change agent, serving thousands.
I say this not to impress you, but to impress upon you that it’s not only possible to thrive in all areas of your life, but to accomplish all that you desire with a healthy work-life balance.
And the way I achieved this was using five tools that I discovered and that I truly live by still today.
These are game changers. They became my guiding light, almost like a north star or a compass that really helps me make sure that I don’t ever get lost again.
And I don’t forget what matters most in my life.
So if you’re feeling that your energy is low, you’re working long hours, and you can’t remember when was the last time you spent real quality time with your loved ones…
Then keep on reading, because you’re in the right place.
What is a healthy work/life balance?
For many women (and especially moms) a healthy work-life balance may seem impossible, but that’s not the case!
Now that our work schedules and personal life boundaries get more and more blurred, it can be challenging to recognize what balance even looks and feels like anymore.”.
But in reality, work-life balance can be simple to define…
It’s working the right amount of time that allows you to both feel fulfilled with your professional contribution to the world, AND gives you enough leisure time to rest, recharge, nurture your mind-body-soul, and socialize with the people you care about.
What your professional situation is, doesn’t make much of a difference here. Employee work-life balance doesn’t mean any more nor less free hours than the busy entrepreneur.
The real difference is what your unique body, mind and spirit need to fully rest, recharge and thrive.
Why do we need balance in life?
It can be easy to get caught up in our busy routine and not think about the side effects of our life decisions. But how important is enjoying a balanced life, really?
A lot! When you’re out of balance, there can be very real consequences.
Your body takes a toll: prolonged stress lowers your immune response, and can worsen symptoms of numerous medical conditions. Of course, it also takes away your energy, passion and sense of aliveness.
Another area that’s highly impacted is your relationships. When you’re out of balance, you may miss special occasions, milestones and even daily interactions with the people that matter to you. Maybe it’s putting your kids to sleep, sparking romance with your spouse or having a coffee with friends – the social network that supports you can feel distant and out of reach.
Even your work suffers! The fatigue of overworking and underresting means that you’re less productive, and it can be more challenging to share your gifts with the world.
How can we maintain balance in our society?
“Hustle culture” has become popular in our day and age. We see influencers and entrepreneurs glorifying the “daily grind” of overworking, over stressing, and under-resting.
These ideals spread the lie that to succeed, you must become hyper-focused and sacrifice parts of your life such as self-care, rest or being with friends and family.
But the truth is that this is ultimately not a sustainable lifestyle.
This is the “myth” of life-balance: that you can’t “have it all” – that it’s not possible to both manifest your big dreams AND live from a place of health, balance and joy.
So I’m going to share with you how I shifted the “myth” of life-balance into my reality and how you can do the same to succeed in all areas of your life – not just one!
How to Balance Work and Life as a Working Mom
As women, we’ve been programmed by society to put others before our own needs – from being a dutiful daughter, a supportive wife, raising the kids…
On top of that, nowadays, we’re also taking on the demands and responsibilities of our professional careers…
It’s no wonder that so many women find themselves depleted, disconnected from their own bodies and profoundly out of balance!
Living a balanced life when you’re a working mom may feel challenging at first, but it’s completely within your reach using some simple tools.
Today I’ll be sharing with you the life lessons I’ve learned as a busy mom, wife and business owner entrepreneur.
I have learned many of these lessons from some of the most successful women, entrepreneurs and change agents in the world, including my own experiences helping thousands of women transform their lives.
Once you apply these secrets, you’ll be able to shift from feeling unfulfilled, unhappy, unhealthy, and even burned out to feeling totally healthy, vibrant, fulfilled, lit up, healthy and in love.
What are the five tools to working life balance?
I have the absolute privilege of helping thousands of other women find their way to their most vibrant, healthy, happy selves. One of the most life-changing shifts in the lives of these women is finding their own sense of balance again.
Over the years, I’ve noticed that there are five tools that stand above the rest – both in my personal experience and in my coaching practice.
Maybe you’re feeling completely disconnected, or you’d just love to get a little boost to stay at the top of your game…
No matter what you’re feeling today, these tools can help you “recalibrate” your inner compass and bring yourself back to center, to a work-life balance that’s right for you.
So let’s unpack these five tools for finding your Well-Being and Work-Life Balance.
Quality of time.
The first tool is taking some quality time for you. The idea behind this principle is that it’s not the quantity of time with our loved ones and yourself that matters, but the quality of time.
It’s much better to spend 10 minutes of quality time really connecting with yourself, your children, your spouse, or doing something that really matters to you than to go a whole day just going through the motions.
So if you haven’t focused your energy in nurturing yourself or connecting with your loved ones lately, set aside some time to do it, even if it’s just a couple of minutes.
Once you implement this tip, you’ll see how powerful it is!
“What would I love?” versus “What do I think others want or need me to do?”
Being aware of the distinction between what you would love and the things you think you “should” do has the potential to completely transform your life. That’s because the things you would love are life-giving, your ‘bucket list’ items. They’re often the wellness activities, and the things that bring you the most joy.
But more often than not, those are the first things that go by the wayside when we feel like we don’t have the time or the energy.
Yet, we don’t want to get to the end of our life having lived “one year 90 times.” Realizing that all of a sudden we’re older… that we don’t have quite the same energy and we haven’t actually done the things we came here to do, or we haven’t brought forth the dreams in our heart.
Life is short. It’s flying by! So truly the question is “What would you love?” – Do you want to plant a garden? Take a dance class? Learn how to speak another language? Run to the beach and just take a day off?
Discover what you would love and give yourself permission at least once a week or at the very least once a month to do that. Again, it’s not the quantity of time, but the quality of time that matters here.
Ask for support.
The third secret is that you are deserving of receiving support. Yes, seriously!
I know I fell for this for many, many years back when I felt burned out before I learned these tools – I would do it all, or think that if I didn’t do it, it wasn’t going to get done as well.
What I’ve learned along the way is that it’s okay that I’m not the one doing everything. The same applies for you, too!
There are things on my to-do list that someone else can do better or likes to do more than me.
When I’m overwhelmed or extremely busy, I just ask myself, what are the things that I’m still doing that are causing the most longing and discontent?
Then I recognize what those tasks are, and allow myself to ask for support or delegate them.
After I go through this process, I always feel so relieved! And you will be so much happier if you give it a try as well.
Put yourself in the center of your own love and support.
If you look at your day, your week, your month – how often are you giving yourself the same type of love and attention that you give your children, your spouse or your work projects?
Are you treating yourself with the same love and kindness that you pour onto everyone else?
You have the power to become your own best friend – and this means treating yourself as the most important, valuable person in your own life.
Imagine this scenario for a moment: if you put yourself in the center of your own love and support, how would your habits change? How would you feed yourself? What would you do to take optimal care of your body temple? How would you nurture your emotional well-being and mental health?
Just start with small, little snippets of time.
Little tokens of love.
What are little tokens of love, you ask?
That’s what I call a small act of appreciating and celebrating yourself or the people you love.
So that could be just an extra few seconds in a hug with your spouse, or getting down on the floor for five minutes and playing with your children if they’re small. Or walking into your teenager’s room and bringing them a glass of water or just saying, “You know what I really appreciate about you…” And praising the specifics.
Tokens of love don’t have to be limited to appreciating others. You can shower yourself with little tokens of love throughout the week. Anything works! Putting your feet up and just doing a five-minute guided meditation, or taking a quick break to enjoy a relaxing beauty routine.
These acts of love could take as little as five minutes, but their impact is enormous. You’ll quickly see that little tokens of love can make a big splash!
A Simple Way To Enjoy Quality Time For Yourself
If you’re feeling out of balance right now, know that you’re not alone. I care about you, I believe in you, and I’d love to continue to help you build your dreams through dream building and brave thinking.
That’s why I’m here to bring you a little token of love!
As the Founder and Director of the Health and Wellbeing Division of the Brave Thinking Institute, I’ve taken the lessons I’ve learned and created a simple, yet effective kit to help you radiate unshakable confidence, repattern your inner critic and unleash your self-love…
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So I hope you have enjoyed these five tools. Know that the dreams in your heart matter, and you absolutely deserve to live a life you love – these five tools can absolutely take you there.
If you know another wonderful woman who could benefit from these tools, feel free to share it with her. Until next time!