Here’s what to keep in mind when you tell friends and family about becoming a life coach
Their methods may not be the best, but the important people in our lives want things to work out well for us.
If they don’t, it’s time to reconsider whether we want them to be in our life at all!
1. The people who matter most to us want what’s best for us
When we care about someone, it’s scary to allow or encourage them to take risks. We want them to be safe and happy, and we’d prefer that they err on the side of caution.
Our loved ones are no different. The people who doubt us aren’t our enemies… but that doesn’t mean they know what’s best for us either, despite their beliefs to the contrary!
2. Small players love company
If people are holding us back from pursuing our dreams and higher purpose, it could be because their own limiting beliefs prevent them from chasing their calling and desires.
They’ve convinced themselves that it’s better to “play small” and to stay safely within their comfort zones, and our decision to do otherwise is challenging their excuses and making them feel badly about their choices.
If we prove that big dreams can be fulfilled, that might mean theirs are possible too, and it was the wrong choice for them to give up on them… and nobody likes to be wrong!
3. You aren’t responsible for their feelings
It’s true that our choice to become a Life Coach could possibly make people feel uneasy.
Afraid for our future, upset that we’re not accepting the excuses they’ve used to keep playing small, resentful that we’re seeking something greater that they themselves have denied.
To make matters worse, they usually aren’t even aware that they’re projecting their limiting beliefs onto us, and they wouldn’t believe it if we told them so!
So, don’t try to convince them. It isn’t our job to force people to accept our choices. We are responsible for making our own decisions and gently, firmly standing by them. It’s not our job to make people feel happy about it. When someone has a problem with a decision that works for us, accept that they’re unhappy and that’s OK.
We get to remind ourselves that their reaction isn’t ours to correct. “I’m responsible for me and my happiness” is a powerful mantra. It’s not our job to “fix” how other people feel. Remember that.
4. You can’t please everyone, but you CAN please the right people
It’s a simple fact of life that people can drift apart. Friendships can fade, family members move away and sometimes people die. Losing relationships is always a possibility, but creating new ones is a choice. Often we keep relationships we’ve had because they “ground us” but when we’re ready to fly, those same relationships can become more like anchors, not allowing us to move forward on the path we’ve chosen.
However, inviting new people into our lives that can guide, support and ground us in our new paradigm, while we go after our dream of becoming a coach, creates a community with people who are happy with our progress and can help us attain our dreams.
New friendships can be made. New communities can be formed. And it’s up to us to decide what we will choose to create, and what we’ll choose to hold onto.