Negative beliefs can wreak havoc on your love life. Here’s how to keep those thoughts in check, so you can stay on track to finding true love!
Ever have those moments where you completely lose hope with dating?
In times like these, it can be easy for the mind to spiral downhill and convince us “It will always be this way”.
You see, if you’re not careful your mind likes to “Sling-Shot” negative beliefs into your future. It gathers “evidence”, and then predicts the outcome of future events, saying: “See! This is the way things are going to be because that’s how it’s happened in the past!”
Left unchecked, these kinds of thoughts can wreak havoc on your love life – locking you in a low vibration that repels great guys.
And that’s why today, I want to share with you some of the best ways to eliminate negative thinking!
Here are five steps highly successful people use to break the negative spiral:
1.Notice What You’re Noticing
As simple as it sounds, you can’t change something you’re not aware of! So, the first step to overcoming negative thoughts, is to realize when you’re being negative.
If you practice becoming aware of your thoughts, you’ll get good at spotting when negative ones are creeping in. This is the very first step to change. Once you can spot the patterns that cause negative thoughts, and you can notice how these thoughts creep in, you can take action steps to halt the process.
2.Isolate The Negative Thought
Isolating negative thoughts or sequestering them allows you to look at them in a new perspective that isn’t so personal. For example, you can do this if you catch yourself thinking “I am never the girl that gets chosen.”
When you catch yourself thinking this, reframe it so it becomes “A part of me feels that I never get chosen.” Or another example might be that you notice yourself saying “I am not enough.” Reframe this again to become “Part of me feels not enough.”
A simple reframing like this immediately disarms the thought and makes it feel more manageable. Allowing you to move past it and have a positive outlook.
3.Love That Negative Thought
Now this step might sound a bit backwards or contradictory. But hear me out!
Loving a negative thought doesn’t mean welcoming them into your life. It means appreciating that they actually come from a good place. For example, you can think to yourself “Even though a part of me feels not chosen, I love and accept myself fully and know that I’m just looking out for myself”.
This is another technique that disarms the negative nature of a thought and gets you back on a positive track. You’re justifying the feeling and acknowledging that it comes from a place of trying to protect yourself. But you’re also choosing not to give it your energy, and to love and accept yourself instead!
4.Connect To The Empowered Part Of You
Did you know that you can speak with your subconscious?
Yes it sounds a little ‘out there’, but you can ask for a message from the empowered place in you. When you directly call for a message from the positive, powerful version of yourself, you’ll be amazed at the response you get.
It might be that you notice inspiring quotes more often throughout your day. Or maybe you’re randomly reminded of a time when you felt in control and on top of the world.
However your subconscious chooses to send this message, know that it will come. And when it does, it will fill you with joy!
5.Replace the thought
There’s a saying that goes: “Thoughts that fire together wire together.”
It means that when we think a positive thought, our next thought is likely to be positive also, and then the next… and so on.
However we choose to think tends to be our predominant outlook for the day. So if you catch yourself thinking a negative thought, purposefully choose to replace it with its positive equivalent!
The more you pair negative thoughts with positives when they show up, the more likely it is that the negative thoughts will stop altogether.
There’s this beautiful cycle of replacing the negative with the empowering. Your thoughts begin to shift, your emotions shift, your beingness shifts, and eventually?
Your whole life shifts. 🙂
So there you have the 5 effective strategies that highly successful people use to eliminate negative thinking and stay on track to achieve whatever their hearts desire!
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Not only will the powerful affirmations assist you in changing negative thinking, they’ll also increase your ability to give and receive love — and as a result, enjoy the relationship you’ve always wanted!
Finally, I’d love to hear from you: What negative thoughts have you heard from a man that you wish HE would replace?
What empowering thought do you wish would take its place?