How a Pair of Socks Almost Ruined My Relationship and the One Simple Shift to Be Happy in Your Relationships

“Do I even know the real him? Are things going to go downhill from here, now that he’s revealing his true colors?”

In an instant, I went from marital bliss to feeling that things would start to crumble. Maybe my love story was too good to be true, and this was the first glimpse of what the future held for me. 

What caused me to question my entire marriage?

A sock on the floor. 

You may find this funny (and in retrospect, it certainly is!) and yet, it’s a vivid example of the #1 thing keeping you from having happy relationships: love blocks.

We all have love blocks. Most likely, you have your own version of “the sock on the floor” without being aware of it.

So let’s dive in and shed some light on this concept – and discover a simple way to override your blocks so you can cultivate loving relationships…

What Are Love Blocks?

From an early age, our mind gets programmed with the beliefs that will shape our lives. We absorbed this programming from the people around us: parents, family, school, and society at large.

Some of this programming will be positive, and allow us to act in ways that support healthy relationships. Maybe you feel comfortable with receiving love, communicating openly and honestly, or feel good about committing to a long-term relationship.

But some of that programming is hurting your love life… 

Love blocks are the unconscious thoughts and patterns that are sabotaging your love life from the shadows. Think of them like a computer virus – they ruin your conscious efforts to create the kind of relationship you dream of.

The good news is that you have power over your mind. Just like with computer viruses, you can get rid of love blocks… and I’ll share with you a simple technique to do just that!

Common Love Blocks

If you’d love to have a happy relationship, you’ll need to shift your inner programming in a way that supports it. And the first thing to do when you want to change something is to become aware of it!

The following are some of the most common love blocks – go through the list and be honest with yourself… which ones apply to you?

• Feeling unworthy of love. When you believe you don’t deserve love, you won’t let it into your life. This can manifest as dating emotionally unavailable people, people who treat you as an option, or who may be “not that into you.” 

• Believing you need someone else to be happy. You attract into your life what you are in harmony with. This means that if you feel you lack love in your life, you’ll keep attracting “lack”! To manifest love into your life, you must fall in love with life first!

• Being closed off. Intimacy requires you to let someone in – but if you’re afraid of getting hurt, you may find yourself putting up walls instead. 

• Fear of Rejection. Putting yourself out there requires courage, and rejection can sting. You may also be afraid of being rejected by your current partner when voicing your needs. However, honest communication is actually great for true intimacy. All this is to say, there are great benefits when you get over the fear of rejection.

What’s great is that you can release these love blocks (and many others) by understanding the concept of your inner thermostat.

To illustrate how this inner thermostat works, let’s take a few steps back and see how my mind turned an innocent sock into a marriage wrecker! 

What Triggers Love Blocks?

I’m happily married to a wonderful man named Joe Dickey. We’ve been together for over a decade now.

About seven or eight months after we got married, we went away on a little weekend vacation together.

One morning, we sat on the patio drinking coffee, looking out onto the lake and having a great conversation.

And I thought to myself right then,

“I have never been this happy in my whole life!”

Now, at that point, I had a highly successful career, wonderful children, many great friends and an all-around lovely, fulfilling life…

But at that exact moment, I was experiencing the deep satisfaction that comes from truly connecting with another human being – a partner.

I had never had the passion, love, commitment, support and FUN I had dreamed of until then, and I was just feeling so happy.

Joe got up at one point and went back inside and I sat there, marveling at how amazing I felt.

After a little while, I got up and went inside too. As I did, I noticed a sock on the floor.

I began thinking to myself,

“Oh my gosh, why is that sock on the floor? Joe is such a neat and orderly person, and I’ve never seen him throw a sock on the floor before! But maybe he was just being that way at the beginning of our relationship and he’s really a very messy person and now that we’re married I’ll start to see that!”

As you can see, my mind was sabotaging my happiness – this was my inner “love thermostat” in action.

And if you’ve ever sabotaged your relationships, or let your love blocks run wild, it’s because of the settings of your inner thermostat!

What Is Your Inner “Love Thermostat”?

There’s a “thermostatic setting” within each of us that governs how much good, fun, love and life we allow ourselves to experience and enjoy.

To change our thermostatic setting, let’s first take a look at what a thermostat is.

A thermostat is a cybernetic system that measures variance.

For example, we have a thermostat in our home that controls the temperature of our house, and we control that temperature by setting the thermostat on the wall.

Say we set the temperature to 72 degrees. The thermostat reads the variance in the atmosphere and if it gets too warm, the air conditioner will be triggered to kick on the cool air. If it gets too cold, it will turn off.

Just like the thermostat in your home, the thermostat within you is set to a certain amount of fun, love or happiness, and it kicks on to keep you at those levels. To increase the overall good in your life, you must change your thermostatic setting.

And you absolutely can change your inner settings! Because here’s the truth: In spirit, there’s no limit to the amount of freedom, flow or joy in life!

The Simple Technique To Raise Your “Love Thermostat”

Now thankfully, for many years, I had been practicing a technique for shifting my “inner thermostat settings” to let more blessings into my life.

This technique is about identifying and repatterning thoughts – what I like to call “notice what you’re noticing,” which is a way to practice mindfulness.

You see, when we notice the “thermostat settings” our thoughts are on, we can decide if that’s the amount of love, joy and abundance we want in our life. And we can either continue on, or stop the thoughts in their tracks.

So I paused, stepped back and noticed the thoughts I was having.

I realized…

“Mary, look! You were just thinking about how you’re happier than you’ve ever been. You’re not used to this level of happiness. So you walked in the room and your internal thermostat tried to dial your happiness down to the normal level you’re used to!”

I had found something “wrong” in my incredibly happy relationship and ran with it.

My “thermostat” made a big issue out of something trivial. A sock on the floor wasn’t just a sock on the floor anymore. My mind projected this into my entire future, painting a new reality of life with a messy husband… and maybe Joe wasn’t the person I thought he was!

But then I realized what I was doing – my internal setting was trying to keep my happiness at a certain level. That way I was able to stop these thoughts and simply embrace the happiness I was feeling.

By doing so, I reset my thermostat for more love and happiness in my life.

And you can apply this technique to start cultivating healthy relationships!

How To Be Happy In A Relationship

We all have edges for how much happiness, success and fulfillment we allow ourselves. But when we come up against them, we can CHOOSE to re-pattern our thoughts.

When you start to think to yourself:

“This happy relationship will certainly sour”

“This amount of success is too good to be true”

“I wonder when the other shoe is going to drop”

Notice what you’re noticing and interrupt your thoughts.

Take a pause and consider that this could be your thermostatic setting preventing you from experiencing more love, success or happiness than you’re used to.

Then say to yourself,

“Nothing’s wrong here, this is just more joy than I’m used to. And you know what? I’m going to make this happiness, freedom or success my new normal.”

And by repeating this process, you’ll reset your thermostatic setting to attract and enjoy MORE good in life! You can choose to be happy!

Now here’s a question for you…

What’s one of your thermostatic settings that’s kept you from having a life you love living?

Has it been around money?

Has it been around love?

That all the good ones are taken?

Or that you can’t be a great parent AND a successful entrepreneur?

Go ahead and post it in the comments section below. I’d love to hear from you!

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