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How to Beat Self-Doubt When It Threatens to Squash Your Goals

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By: Mary Morrissey
Updated: December 30, 2019

Use This Simple, 3-Word Phrase to Skyrocket Your Self-Confidence and Eliminate Self-Sabotage, So You Can Stay on Track to Achieve Your Goals and Create a Life You Love Living

The New Year brings a rush of excitement as you set goals and refine your vision of the life you’d love to create. But if you’re like most people, self-doubt can creep up on you and derail your chance at a new life – if it’s not managed properly.

Self-doubt is the persistent voice of your status quo.

It looks at your dreams and goals, and counters with often reasonable-sounding arguments about why you can’t have, be or do what you would love.

The voice of the status quo is the one that whispers, “Where will you find the money?” or “How will I make this work?” or “I’m too busy” or “It’s too late for me to make that kind of a change.”

Craft a Crystal-Clear Vision of Your Dream…in Just 13 Minutes

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Self-doubt is a normal part of the goal-setting process.

It’s something that nearly everyone experiences.

Your brain’s very purpose is to keep you safe.

To your brain, that means not taking risks. It often means not trying something new.

When you focus your attention on goals that challenge the safe status quo, thoughts will start to bubble up from your subconscious.

These thoughts will try to keep you safe by tamping down your impulse to try these risky new things.

Self-doubt is a vital part of life, and some measure of it is necessary.

Without it, we might:

  • Take dangerous and unnecessary risks that would put us in physical danger.
  • Be overly confident about our own abilities and tune out valuable information and data that will help us steer our companies or careers in the right direction.
  • Or take financial risks that would put our business and personal finances in danger.

But left unchecked, self-doubt can be dangerous.

We become crippled by “What if’s” and fall prey to “paralysis by analysis.” We take longer than necessary to move into action and fail to complete what we start.

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At its core, self-doubt is a sneaky way that we sabotage our own success.

We don’t take the actions needed to turn our dreams into a reality. We don’t fulfill our potential, live our purpose or serve the people we are meant to serve.

To achieve your goals in 2020 and ultimately create a life that you truly love living, you need a way to effectively manage self-doubt.

In my 45+ years of studying and teaching the art and science of transformation, I’ve discovered that one of the easiest and most effective ways to beat self-doubt is a simple, three-word phrase:

“Up until now…”

When you notice self-doubt chattering away in your mind, first take a deep breath and calm yourself down. And then acknowledge what the voice said, starting your reply with “Up until now….”

  • “Up until now, I haven’t known how to do this, but I’m committed to learning now.”
  • “Up until now, I haven’t had the money to follow my dreams, but now I’m taking steps to budget my money differently.”
  • “Up until now, I have felt too old to pursue a new career, but now I see that my attitude is what matters – not my age.”

“Up until now” calls your subconscious mind to attention and tells it you’re in charge – not your doubt.

This simple, three-word phrase signals that you are giving new instructions which your subconscious mind must follow. Using this phrase, you set new destinations as orders and direct your subconscious mind to figure out how to marshal all resources to get you there.

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Your bold battle cry of “up until now” won’t produce an immediate shift.

When the captain of the Queen Mary gives the order to turn the ship, it takes a full seven miles before the turn is fully executed. But the process begins the moment the captain finishes delivering orders – and so it will be with your simple statement of “up until now.”

Remember, even if you can’t see the way to your goal right now, there must be a way. If there weren’t, you would never have dreamed the dream you’re pursuing in the first place!

Up until now, you may not have known how to handle self-doubt.

But now you do.

With this phrase, you can take command of the thoughts you think and the mind you think from. You can manage any self-doubt that comes up on your journey to your dreams and eliminate self-sabotage from your life.

new years goals beat self doubt 2020

And if you’d like to develop even more mastery over your mind, to elevate your ability to stay on track, achieve your most inspiring goals, and create a life you love living…

I invite you to download my most recent guided meditation:

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In this free meditation, you’ll discover how to:

  • Connect with the deep inner voice that’s calling you to a greater level of existence, achievement and becoming.
  • Open the doors of possibility… and craft a powerful, comprehensive vision of the life you would love to live.

If you’ve ever struggled with setting new goals that actually come true…

…click here to learn to craft a crystal-clear vision of your dream…
in just 13 minutes.

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About Mary Morrissey

Mary Morrissey

Mary Morrissey is widely considered the world’s foremost expert on “dream-building,” having invested the last 40 years into studying the art and science of transforming dreams into results. Mary has also written two best-selling books, addressed the United Nations three times, co-convened three week-long meetings with His Holiness The Dalai Lama, and met with President Nelson Mandela in South Africa. Through her books, live events and programs, Mary has helped empower millions of people worldwide to achieve new heights of meaning, purpose, aliveness and authentic success.

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Comments

  1. Susan Hutchison

    January 5, 2020 at 12:37 am

    Thank you Mary. It sure does work!!

    Reply
  2. Pat Martin

    January 3, 2020 at 2:48 am

    I sure need this.

    Reply
  3. david hands

    January 2, 2020 at 10:10 pm

    Thank you Mary. I’ve spent 30 plus years in spiritual growth and tonight I’ve learned something new about forgiveness.
    Looks like I might have to buy the program at full price, bought Mind Movies last week so must get that working.
    Thank you.

    Reply
  4. Mahfuzur rahman

    January 2, 2020 at 11:18 am

    Only needed working permit visa

    Reply
  5. Jeanette B. Fritsche II

    January 2, 2020 at 7:15 am

    Just wanted to post a gratitude note,thank you for being a wise, inspirational guide in this life! And for affirming I can tell my doubt to take a hike,phew!

    Reply
  6. Brown Mhango

    January 2, 2020 at 6:54 am

    I am living in Africa and the payment system hinders us who don’t use credit cards. Is there any way that can be devised to enable us to pay cash!?

    Reply
  7. Beverly Wurts

    January 1, 2020 at 10:34 pm

    I love you Mary and your teachings. I look forward to meeting you in LA in a couple weeks and have lunch. I purchased your course “meditations” but between traveling out of the country for long periods, business, holidays, and family demands I only did 2 but it changed me forever. I look forward to hunker down and do all 5 x 5 mediations. I learn and change with each lesson you share. Thank you.

    Reply
  8. Diana Swiderski

    January 1, 2020 at 10:11 pm

    Thank you Mary,
    Up until now I did have a lot of doubts. Your inspiration is truly amazing to me! ThankYou,

    Reply
  9. Allen P. Stokes

    January 1, 2020 at 8:48 pm

    Thank you Mary !
    Up Until Now, You have given me
    5 MindSet Strategies and the
    Empoower-ing Transform-ing, “Up Until NOW.”
    I want to find something you have written and purchase.

    You ADD to All LIVES.

    Reply
  10. janice lenore kelly

    January 1, 2020 at 8:36 pm

    I am trying so hard to be successful. I started last year 2019 in JANUARY I have lost about 76 lbs i started at 276 Im at 185 today I do not want to give up it has been a battle but I will make it this year by july 2020. I cant afford to pay as I am on Social Security .

    Reply
  11. Peter

    January 1, 2020 at 7:01 pm

    Great piece of advise. Will definitely apply it

    Reply
  12. Elizabeth Towle

    January 1, 2020 at 5:56 pm

    Many thanks!! I loved listening to
    Mary Morrissey.com this morning!

    Reply
  13. Toys

    January 1, 2020 at 4:58 pm

    The last 5 years of my life has been full of lost .. I lost a brother a husband a nephew and now a mother. I lost a huge case I thought would give me financial freedom and now I’m just hoping to revamp my life. For the past 18 years fear had been my guide and not believing I’m worthy had been my compass. I know that this my decade to shine I believe this is my time.

    Reply
  14. Irma

    January 1, 2020 at 4:15 pm

    Thank you for your positive emails. I appreciate your time. Your words help!

    Reply
  15. sherry wilson wilson

    January 1, 2020 at 2:57 pm

    I want to learn to get my score up

    Reply
  16. Shahid Husain

    January 1, 2020 at 2:27 pm

    I think fear is within. You throw it out and you are fearless.

    Reply

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