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He Stopped Texting…Send him THIS!

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By: Mat Boggs
Updated: January 7, 2021

If you hear nothing but crickets for days after you text him…  should you text him again? If so, what do you say? Time to find out!

You’re texting a new guy… you send him a funny message and you can’t wait for his reaction…

But it never comes… Ouch!

Is the texting thread dead forever, or is there anything you can do to bring the conversation (and spark) back to life?

He Stopped Texting... Send him THIS!

Let’s explore… 

Why OLD SCHOOL Dating Had The Advantage

The main conversation killer these days is a lack of connection. Now, sometimes this lack of connection is simply because it’s not a match. And in those cases, it’s best to move forward and find someone you have a better connection with…

But other times, a lack of connection is actually due to something I call “split focus”. This is when one or both parties are talking to multiple people at the same time. Think about how easy it is to strike up a conversation with someone on a dating app in today’s world compared to pre-online dating. 

Before online dating, a man had to physically cross paths with a woman to start a conversation. He had to risk rejection, break the ice and speak in real time. If things went well, he got to ask for her number. If he did get that number… he valued it differently to today. He risked it all to get that number, and he was sure as hell going to give his full focus and attention to pursuing a conversation!

And that’s where dating differs today…

It’s only human nature is to take the path of least resistance. And in the modern world, the path of least resistance is to be in multiple conversations at once, and then to only continue speaking with the person you feel the most connection with.

The downfall to this approach is that not all connection happens at the same speed! Some interactions have higher attraction in the beginning — they spark fast, but fizzle out quickly. Other connections are friendships that catch fire. They’re slower to ignite, but end up being just as hot. If you’re talking to multiple people, there may be some where the connection hasn’t formed yet, but it will… if given the chance. 

This means in your current circumstance, he may have stopped texting because he’s not feeling a deep connection with you initially. Sometimes that connection just needs a little spark to cross the threshold into a romantic dream-come-true.

3 Secrets To Sparking Passionate Attraction

Let’s say that you’ve both connected a bit, and you were the last one to send him a text or communication. A few days later, you still haven’t heard from him and you’re wondering what to do…

Here’s 3 ways to navigate the situation…

#1 – Give him several days – This is counter-intuitive to many women, but can be surprisingly effective! Before you send any messages his way, give him space to miss you, to wonder what you’re up to. Give the connection some breathing room. There’s no hard and fast rule, but 3-4 days is a good barometer. 

#2 – Stay connected to your love abundance – Detach from the mindset that this guy must be your guy. Instead, hold him with an open hand. Stay open to the possibility that this could be him… or someone even better still is on his way to you. Your energy will be the most attractive when you’re coming from an open place of detachment!

#3 – Send him the “Resuscitation Text” – This is where you say, “Would love your opinion on something”. Men love to share opinions! Most guys can’t help but write back, “What’s up?”. You can then use this to your advantage… asking something like the following: 

“My friend and I were debating on this…

…What are the most attractive aspects of a woman to you?”

Using this KEY phrase, you’ll not only spark an interesting conversation, but you’ll also see exactly where his mind is and what he’s looking for in a woman. If he says (and let’s hope he doesn’t!) something like “Big boobs and a nice butt,” that tells you something about his values and character.

If he comments on deeper, more specific qualities of a woman, like a sharp mind or an open heart, you can ask more about these and go deeper. It’s more than likely that he will ask you the same question about qualities in men!

Anytime you talk about what you find attractive, there’s a bit more energy, flirting, excitement and innuendos. It leads to a much more interesting interaction, and might just be the spark the connection needed! 

If you’re interested in learning other ways to spark the attraction and heighten the excitement and connection, be sure to check out my Free Ebook — The 5 Feminine Qualities High Quality Men Find Irresistible!

Now I ask you to share with me and with our community…

What do you do when a man doesn’t text you back? Have you found effective ways to bring the conversation back to life? 

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About Mat Boggs

Mat Boggs

Mat Boggs is known by many as one of the world’s leading experts in the areas of love and relationships. Through his revolutionary coaching programs, “Cracking the Man Code,” Mat Boggs has helped millions of women around the world attract true love and create fulfilling relationships that last. He has also built a highly successful coaching business, written a best-selling book, shared the stage with some of the industry’s biggest names like Jack Canfield, Les Brown, Bob Proctor, and Brendon Burchard, and been featured on The Today Show, CNN, Headline News, and more.

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