Take a breath… here’s exactly what to do when he hasn’t texted back. If you were looking for the CURE to texting anxiety, this is it!
You send him a flirty text message and put your phone down on the sofa…
But you can’t help but obsessively glance at the screen, waiting for it to light up. Time passes… then MORE time passes… and you’re still waiting anxiously…
Your thoughts start to run wild as you imagine all the reasons why he’s taking so long to text back.
And the reply never comes…
The good news is, you never need to feel this texting anxiety ever again.
In this article, I asked my wife Irene to share her 3-Step-CURE for texting anxiety.
Once you master this, you’re going to feel a lot more confident and at ease with dating as a whole…
And texting specifically is going to become WAY less stressful and time consuming (you’ll know what to say, and when to say it without fretting over the words).
Ok, let’s dive right into the 3 steps…
- Ditch Your Phone – Step one to curing texting anxiety is to ditch your phone. Having your phone right beside you is a constant reminder that you haven’t received a reply. Give yourself a break by putting your phone in the other room. That way, you won’t have to fight your natural curiosity to flip the phone over and check it when it’s right beside you. Take your mind off it and do something else while you leave your phone behind. You’ll be much more carefree, I guarantee it!
- Guard Your Thoughts- This is a skill you can develop over time. Try to notice what you’re noticing and stop any thoughts that might induce anxiety. For example, if you start to notice that you’re imagining him dating other people… or you’re coming up with uncomfortable scenarios that would explain why he hasn’t texted…learn to catch yourself and stop those thoughts. Instead, try to focus on how he’s showing up for you. Is he acting like your dream man? Is he worthy of your attention? By framing a situation in this way, you remind yourself that you aren’t seeking someone else’s attention, you’re deciding if this man is right for you!
- Focus on a great life- Put attention on doing things you love. Re-ignite your hobbies. Not just keeping yourself busy, but doing things that you enjoy and that make you happy. Occupy your time with joy and you’ll forget all about waiting for an outcome! Shift your mindset to one where you build a great life… Investing in something that matters to you, or someone. Instead of waiting on him to make a move or to make you happy, focus on becoming a positive influence in his life, regardless of the outcome!
To summarize, curing the dreaded ‘waiting for a text’ anxiety boils down to one golden principle:
Aim to be a positive presence in your own life (and in someone else’s life), regardless of what happens!
Focus on making a positive impact on him without being attached to it. It can feel great to do something for someone with no expectation. Just for the sake of being a positive influence in the world.
When you live a positive, meaningful life that helps other people, good things will be attracted to you and people will feel your unique positivity. If this guy you’re texting right now doesn’t see that… keep the faith, know your worth and decide whether you want to be with someone who doesn’t recognize your uniqueness.
Your dream man is out there and when you live in to this new way of being, he will be amazed to see you boldly sharing your positive influence with the world. There’s nothing more attractive!
I hope you’ve found these three steps useful. Putting them in to practice will put your mind at ease so you never have to face the nervous feeling of waiting for a text again!
If however, you’re still struggling to ease the anxiety, or if you just want to make love happen for you as quickly as possible, I encourage you to check out my Self-Love Activation Kit!
This ebook + meditation combo will help you elevate your sense of self-worth quickly and easily… so that you exude authentic confidence that quality men find irresistible.
Finally, I’d love to hear your thoughts.
How do you deal with texting anxiety? Let me know in the comments below!