Have you ever wondered what it feels like for your man to be in love with you?
Or are you questioning whether or not the man in your life is actually fully in love with you yet?
While men can definitely be mysterious and don’t always communicate every aspect of being in love, there are some telltale things that a man experiences when he’s in love with you.
According to research conducted by the brilliant and world-renowned biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, both men and women experience a total sensory rush of emotions when they fall in love. This is because chemicals like dopamine, norepinephrine and serotonin flood the brain and create an actual euphoric state. Whoa!!
In this way, love actually operates like a drug. Pretty crazy, right?
In her book Why We Love, Helen Fisher explores the seven experiences that men have when they’re truly in love, and I want to share them with you here so you can get a better sense of what he actually goes through when he falls super hard for you!
#1: WHEN HE’S IN LOVE… his thoughts are magnetized to you.
When a man’s fallen in love you, you dominate his thinking. His mind just automatically turns to you, even when he’s at work or attempting to focus on something else.
In fact, a lot of men report that a whopping 80% of their day is consumed by thoughts of the woman he loves. That’s a LOTTA his day dedicated to you!
#2: WHEN HE’S IN LOVE… he experiences a surge of energy.
When your man is in love with you, he feels pure energetic expansion, a deep and profound sense of aliveness. Life seems brighter, more vivid, as if technicolor! And the amazing thing is, it actually IS.
You see, all those chemicals that rush to his brain – the dopamine, the norepinephrine, the serotonin – they actually heighten our awareness, so life quite literally becomes more spectacular because of you.
That’s how much power you have!
It’s kind of like that movie Limitless, where the guy takes a pill and is able to unlock all kinds of parts of his brain. Except in this case, your man’s amazing feelings are connected to YOU.
#3: WHEN HE’S IN LOVE… he analyzes your actions!
If you’ve ever felt like maybe you were really studying and over-analyzing your man’s words, actions or text messages (come on, ‘fess up!)… you are not alone! This isn’t crazy or obsessive. It’s actually normal.
The vast major of men report that when they’re intensely attracted to a woman, they analyze absolutely everything about her. Her moves, her actions, her texts, EVERYTHING!
When he does this, he’s asking himself, “Does she reciprocate my same feelings?” He’s looking for evidence that you do.
#4: WHEN HE’S IN LOVE… he prioritizes you
Okay, this is a big one. Brace yourself! When he’s in love, you’re a priority to him. Again: You are a PRIORITY to a man who is really in love with you.
He will, believe it or not, strategically keep his calendar open in case you’re available to hang out with him. He will actually say things to his friends like, “I’m not sure I can do that yet, I want to see what she’s up to that day.”
I know, we’re conditioned to believe that men don’t think this way. But when they’re in love, they do! If there’s a chance he can see you, he’s going to take it 🙂
#5: WHEN HE’S IN LOVE… his emotions are tied to yours.
In short: If you’re happy, he’s happy. If you’re feeling down, sad, frustrated or angry, his emotions get pulled down as well.
Doing research for the bestselling book I co-authored, Project Everlasting, I interviewed hundreds of America’s happiest married couples who had been married decades. The men would constantly say the same thing…
The gist was: “If mama’s happy, everybody’s happy. If mama ain’t happy, nobody’s happy!”
So again, you have tremendous sway over his emotions when he’s in love.
#6: WHEN HE’S IN LOVE… he daydreams about having sex with you!
Aw yeah, it’s true! A giant majority of men report daydreaming about having sex with the woman they’re in love with, and this is a pretty great thing if you ask me! Because what separates basic friendship from romantic attachment is sexual attraction.
So just know that by the time he ends up sleeping with you, he will have fantasized about you a thousand times. No exaggeration!
This is because you’re sexy, you’re beautiful, and when he’s in love, he’s ultra attracted to you.
#7: WHEN HE’S IN LOVE… he is willing to fight for you.
A man in love with you will move heaven and earth for you. He’ll climb the highest mountain, swim the deepest sea . . . because he wants to be with you and make you happy. He will become your personal Superman.
In reality, he may move from where he lives or make large life changes for you. Most importantly, he’s willing to face difficult situations that arise with love, commitment, and compassion. When things get rough or off-track, he’ll fight for the relationship, because he’s all in.
Because really, as I’ve said before and will say again and again: It’s hard to screw up the right thing!
Think about that for a minute…
When you’re with the RIGHT man, you don’t have to worry or walk on eggshells around him, or he around you. You can both be your real, authentic selves, and you can both pour love into the relationship even when it’s challenging.
When it’s right, you’ll recover from fights easily and fight for one another, because the relationship matters to you both!
He may be madly in love with you, but the trick is STAYING in love!
If the man in your life is having the seven experiences above, he’s definitely in love with you!
But here’s the kicker – nature only gives us this amazing cocktail of chemicals in our brain for roughly 18 months. We get 18 months of bliss. 18 months of feeling like the emoji with heart eyes. Or as a lot of us know it, the good old “honeymoon phase.” Sigh.
After 18 months, these love chemicals begin to decrease and the super duper blissed out emotions wane. So you need to be proactive in continuing to create the connection together.
Even the best, best relationships take work! And when you do the work to ignite these chemicals and keep the love alive, you can be in love for a lifetime.
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