Is your relationship built to last? Great relationships often boil down to how emotionally healthy and intelligent your partner is…
Here are 5 signs to determine whether your man has the emotional capacity to build something great!
One of the biggest factors that determines the level of fulfillment and joy you experience in life, is what kind of a relationship you’re going to have.
As you face challenges, your partner will either be a force for good, helping you overcome those challenges, or they will be a negative force, making the challenge even harder.
And a common theme that determines what kind of role they are going to play in your life, is whether or not they are emotionally healthy… Or emotionally toxic!
In this article, I’m going to share 5 signs to help you determine whether the person you’re seeing is emotionally healthy or not.
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- He owns his mistakes
The first sign of an emotionally healthy man is whether he can actually say the words “I’m sorry”. Resistance to owning mistakes comes from deep seated insecurities. You’ll often see this with narcissists, or people with very low self-esteem.
A person who has a healthy self-esteem knows that they are not defined by their behavior, and it’s okay to make mistakes. They understand that the right thing to do is to own up to it.
Watch for this behavior and notice if your man can accept when he’s done something wrong. If you find that he avoids admitting any fault, it could lead to a toxic relationship further down the line.
- He can talk about feelings of sadness and fear.
Can your man talk about deep emotions? If he can, this shows he’s in touch with his true feelings. He can express them himself but also understand them from others. This is an essential tool for supporting people through difficult times.
Look for moments when your man openly speaks about fear, hurt, sadness or grief. These are often the driving emotions behind surface level reactions like anger. If he is emotionally intelligent enough to realize and share these deeper feelings, it’s likely that he will be able to have calm discussions that can be resolved more easily.
- He’s done his forgiveness work
If you’re human, you’ve got some forgiveness work to do. Everybody has it. Whether it’s from a difficult childhood, a relationship that betrayed you, or someone who did you wrong in some way.
An emotionally healthy person does not harbor past resentment. They aim to come to peace with it.
E.g. If he had a difficult upbringing as a child, it doesn’t mean he has to love his parents, but if he’s emotionally healthy he will at least try to release it and move on.
It’s important to stress here that we aren’t looking for perfection. Everyone’s emotional trauma is different and he may find it difficult to truly forgive his past. But as long as he’s working on it, you know that he has the emotional intelligence to move forward in your lives together.
- He’s compassionate with himself
This one sounds like a given, but it’s an important part of healthy relationships. An emotionally healthy man doesn’t hold himself to impossible standards. He doesn’t beat himself up for falling short. Instead, if he makes a mistake or fails at something, he recognizes it’s part of the learning process and he can get better.
A man who stews in his failure, is one who struggles with compassion. Whether that be for himself or for others. The degree to which a man has compassion for himself, is directly related to the degree in which he can offer compassion to others.
- He draws healthy boundaries
By healthy boundaries, I mean that he says NO to things that aren’t aligned with who he is or the life he wants to live. He’s not seduced by an opportunity to the degree that he sacrifices his integrity or priorities.
He can decipher what truly matters to him, his family, his health, his spirituality, or his relationships, and he keeps those first.
You can notice this if he’s made plans with you and then gets invited to something else. If he’s truly invested in the relationship and he sets it as a priority, he won’t be seduced by other opportunities!
There’s a simple and proven way to attract an emotionally healthy guy into your life. I’ve seen it work time and time again, and I’d love to not only give this system to you, but support you in puting it into practice. It’s called Manifest Your Man. My program designed to help you develop the right mindset, heartset and skillset you need to find the man of your dreams and leave the draining online dating game forever!
And before you go, why not share some community wisdom? What are some of the signs you see that let you know your man is emotionally healthy? Comment below.