One of the defining traits of highly successful people is that they have the perseverance to bounce back from failure quickly and easily.
They may change tactics if necessary, but they never give up on their goals and dreams.
There may have been times when YOU set your heart on something — when you created an inspiring vision of what you would love, took action, and stepped outside of your comfort zone to achieve your dream… and then you didn’t experience the results you wanted.
Or maybe you experienced some success, only to slide back again.
That feeling of failure can be tough. I know this from personal experience!
In fact, I’ve often said that I hold two black belts: one in success, and one in failure, and that both have been equally instructive for me.
Both success and failure are important for creating a sense of growth and expansion in our lives.
The feeling that we are growing is what ultimately leads to true fulfillment.
The proven 3-step formula that the world’s most successful people use to transform failure into growth, expansion and abundance
Every person experiences failure, whether that failure is the dozens of times you fell down when you were first learning to walk, saying the wrong thing to someone you care about, or the loss of a job, business or important relationship.
You cannot live a life and NOT experience failure. It comes with the territory!
But, just because you have a failure, you don’t have to let that failure have YOU.
People who are highly successful, even top transformational teachers, don’t allow failure to lower their self-image, and they don’t use it as an excuse to stop moving toward their dreams.
Instead, they look for what they can learn from the experience — and they then use that learning to correct course, and to propel themselves further and further.
These steps apply to both the small, everyday setbacks and the big, life-changing events that may seem hopeless — and can transform failures into opportunities for growth and advancement.
1. View failure as feedback
Thomas Edison was once asked, “How in the world did you keep going after you sustained 10,000 failures on your way to discovering the incandescent light bulb?”
He replied, “What do you mean failure? I never had a failure. It was all feedback.”
In everything that may have looked like a failure to others, there was a piece of information that he used for his next experiment.
When you experience a failure, stop and ask yourself, “What am I making this mean?”
What story are you going to choose to tell yourself about what happened?
Will you choose to tell yourself that this failure means that you’re stupid, or that you “should have known better,” or that you’re somehow unworthy or incapable of creating great things?
Or can you choose to see what happened as nothing more than an experience that you’re having… one that might actually SERVE you in some way when it comes to expressing more of your potential in life?
Instead of making yourself wrong when you stumble, the first step to transforming failure into something useful and valuable is to look at it as nothing more than feedback.
2. Ask yourself, “What did I learn? What was the gift in this experience?”
Napoleon Hill says:
“Every adversity has within it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.”
But like any seed, it must be found, planted, nourished, grown, and then harvested.
You can start harvesting your failures right now, by pausing to take a look at the experience. It may not have been one of your favorite experiences, but there’s still something you can harvest from it, some insight or gift you can glean.
So take a minute right now to ask yourself, “What is the gift in my most recent failure? What lesson can I take away from it that will help move me forward?
3. Take action
Once you’ve discovered the lesson or gift within the failure, ask yourself: “How can I use this to help me move closer toward what it is that I would love to be, do, have or create in my life?”
If you had an argument with a loved one, for example, and this is something you consider a failure, you could use this as an opportunity to share with them and take your relationship to a new, deeper level of connectedness.
Or, if something more significant has happened, like you’ve lost your job, for example, you could take action toward going out and getting the dream job or starting that dream business that you know in your heart you’ve been longing to invest your time and talents in.
The learning that each of us receives from our failures can be a great gift
It’s your life, and you get to choose how you live it.
You don’t have to be defined by your failures, or let them stop you….
When you choose to view failure as feedback, look for the gift in the experience and take action on what you’ve learned, you will quickly begin using your setbacks as fuel for future growth — just as highly successful people do!
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