It can be scary going back out into the dating world when you’ve had your heart broken so many times before. And inevitably, the fear of getting hurt causes a lot of questions…
“How do you gain confidence to get back out there? How do you tell a guy you’re scared of getting hurt without pushing him away? Should you even tell him?”
There’s varying dating advice for women with widely ranging views on this topic, but ultimately, here’s the deal…
We have to accept the fact that when it comes to relationships, there will always be risks.
The good news is, risks are an essential part of life, and they can empower us to grow as human beings.
We’re going to discuss how to embrace that risk, stop being scared to love, and build your confidence to get back out there with 2 key principles.
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Still with me? Let’s get into the 2 principles to help you not feel scared to get hurt …
Realize that you are resilient
First things first: you are powerful!
No breakup that you go through in the future is going to kill you. Instead, embrace the challenge as an opportunity to learn and grow, and know that previous failure doesn’t mean that YOU are a failure.
Previous failure is just feedback, telling us the relationship wasn’t the right one. All that’s left to do after the breakup is to ask: “What can I learn from this and how can I grow?”
It’s incredibly freeing to realize that all relationships carry risk, but you are more powerful, stronger, and more resilient than any challenge you’re facing.
Embracing the fear, learning from failure, and advancing forward will leave you in a far better place than when you started.
And once you come from this new perspective, you might even find yourself feeling grateful for having the breakup!
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Trust your intuition (And listen to it!)
If you look at the guys that you’ve been picking that haven’t worked out, I bet that your intuition knew about it.
There was probably a still, small voice within that somewhere along the line said, “Don’t go for that guy!”
Or even something like “Big red flag! Hello! He doesn’t keep his word! Hello!”
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Most of us have had that experience, of our intuition telling us we shouldn’t move forward with someone — but we ignore it and move forward anyway.
And of course ignoring our intuition never ends well!
So, I encourage you to listen to yourself and trust your intuition.
As you do, you give yourself the permission to grow and the permission to risk again, because if you want a relationship that lights you up, you’re going to have to take some risk.
You’re going to have to get in the game of love rather than just watching it from the sidelines.
And if you’re reading this, I know you can do it!
So there you have it — 2 key principles you can use to build your confidence, get back out there, and feel free from the fear of being in new relationships.
It’s important to know that your new man is probably waiting for you to let down your guard!
I’ve heard many men say things like “She likes me but is scared of getting hurt”, and they truly want to help, but they don’t know how to bring it up in conversation.
So remember that the right guy won’t shy away from your fear, and he might be waiting for you to let him know about it!
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Finally, let me ask you a question: Can you relate to feeling scared to get hurt? What have you found helps you let go of that fear? How could you use that in the dating scene?
Let me know in the comments below!